If you choose to be with someone known as a player, you need to not let his playing ways get the best of you or you’ll never survive.
Give him his freedom, to a degree, and don’t take things personally. We teach people how to treat us by what we’re willing to put up with.
To avoid falling for his words, listen to his actions instead.
They will endeavour to be in your life right away, helping with problems and offering to be there for you in all sorts of situations.
They will say all the things you want to hear and will feel euphoric with your response because their ego will have got its much-needed feelings of power and control.
Fundamentally, they are scared and feel unlovable so they are drawn to have many intense, short relationships rather than longer, more sustained attachments that would expose their vulnerability.
If you’re going to stick with the player anyways, be aware of your situation and try not to take things to heart.
Know that his minor flirtations to waitresses (and waiters) have more to do with his way of being and less to do with him actually wanting to bring them home.