We disagree." "I tell people that we are very comfortable with our decision not to have kids and have no regrets," Gomez adds. We direct our energies elsewhere, such as animal-rights causes and politics." Barbara Fisher, a licensed professional counselor in Atlanta, says that for some, the choice not to have children is spiritual.
"For many people, being child-free has to do with their destiny.
Many voluntarily child-free couples are loathe to sacrifice a rewarding, creative, and often spontaneous lifestyle that includes travel, entertainment, sports, and hobbies. Couples also mention the peace, quiet, and order of a child-free home.
Minimizing stress is yet another common factor many child-free couples consider when making their choice.
Whether more people are adopting this lifestyle choice is harder to quantify -- there just isn't that much data on the subject -- but Americans' views on the importance of children to a relationship do appear to be changing.
A 2007 Pew Research Center survey showed that attitudes on whether children are integral to a relationship are changing.
"When couples are forthright and have a lot of interesting things going on in their life, people experience that positive energy from them." Cynthia Mc Kay is the CEO of her own gourmet gift basket business; her husband, Paul Gomez, is the assistant attorney general for Colorado. They are up-front about their decision to remain child-free.
Research done by the web site No Kidding bears this out: 62% of surveyed couples had concerns.Just 41% of Americans said children are "very important" to a successful marriage. Today, resources for the voluntarily child-free abound. Most people, like myself, who decided early not to have kids, acknowledged an absence of desire.Support sources include social networking groups, like Childfree Meetup; web sites, such as nokidding.net; and books, including Families of Two: Interviews With Happily Married Couples Without Children by Choice. Speaking for myself, parenthood seemed too important or daunting an endeavor to go into without enthusiasm or desire." The reasons child-free couples give for not having children are as varied as the couples themselves.She writes that those who are childless by choice don't see themselves as lacking anything.She notes that their preference is to be referred to as 'child-free,' which reflects a considered lifestyle choice.