Remember that the aim of online dating is to find someone who suits you, not just to find someone. When it comes to online dating (and dating in general, really) there are no surefire tips to make things work.
Finally, you really need to ask good questions and listen carefully to the answers. But when it comes to building good relationships there are a handful of core skills that really help–things like asking good questions, listening carefully, and learning how to manage differences and disagreements constructively instead of destructively.
(I once exchanged emails with someone for months and then flew internationally to meet him. It’s easier to idealize someone – to imagine that they possess all sorts of exceptional qualities and traits, and that they would make an ideal partner.
Literally millions of people (including me) who first met online are now married, and psychologists are starting to examine these relationships. One independent study surveyed almost 20,000 Americans who met their spouse online.
If you meet online does that tend to make you more or less compatible? Those of us who met their partners online will find the results encouraging. In fact, people who met online were slightly less likely to divorce and scored slightly higher on marital satisfaction.” (Bohannon, 2013, Online marriage is a happy marriage). scientific support for what many of us have known for years – meeting someone online can work.
You can make these sorts of quick and unconscious assumptions in the early stages of any dating relationship.
However, when you meet online (and especially when you meet someone who lives far away) it is particularly easy to assume that this other person is more suited to us than they actually are.