Meeting someone who you really, truly click with is rare and I think revisiting it isn’t a bad idea. when you think of how everything went down, are you angry? As for other people saying stuff about him using you to get his “foot in the door” at the company…that just sounds ridiculous, like one of those things somebody just says and it’s complete nonsense.I knew that he had a huge crush on me, but I was dating someone else at the time.Anyway, we started dating at the end of last summer. He was calling all the time, sending flowers, sending random “thinking about you emails”-he even told me that he really saw us getting married at some point!and then before you know it they’re together again.Ultimately, this is something you should clarify to yourself – can you completely forgive him, yourself, and the relationship itself for how it ended? If you can and you are living close to each other again, it might work out well. Or are you OK with it, truly OK with it and you can just chalk it up to it being the situation and everyone did the best they could? I don’t necessarily expect that you don’t have some lingering bad feelings, but my feeling is that you should really, truly become at peace with any negative lingering thoughts or feelings regarding your previous relationship before you start again (if you decide to).A few people have suggested to me that he only dated me to “get his foot in the door.”He ended up getting another job somewhere else.
Updated to add: The use of the term ‘single mother’ is not exactly accurate. If you screw up and get pregnant, don’t screw up even more and bring an innocent child along with you! Divorced moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either.
You don’t need people getting in your ear like that – listen to your own instinct and if you can forgive, I don’t think it would hurt to try.
But don’t go in with expectations – just flow with it and feel if it is working for you or not. If not, no problem – at least you won’t have to wonder.
I finally had to tell him that I really didn’t think I could ever trust him again, so it would be hard to be friends.
To throw another issue into the mix, at one point, he wanted to come back to where I work. He loves this company and wants to eventually work for them full-time.